There’s typical “gender fouls” like “Men who don’t like sports or cars” or “women who don’t like babies or armpit shaving.” If you’re one of these, people make you feel less than a man/woman. But what I’ve noticed recently is there is a HIDDEN ASYMMETRY in gender fouls. A whole second level of unfairness that is hidden until now simply because there is not a word for it. What we normally think of as “gender fouls”, are actually two different things. There’s the normal type of gender foul like i mentioned up above. Let’s call those TYPE ONE.
For my money, though, the more interesting gender fouls are things that mark you as a loser, a failure as a man/woman , EVEN THOUGH YOU’RE DOING SOMETHING WHICH ONLY YOUR GENDER DOES. When you think about it, that’s pretty weird. I guess you can resolve the contradiction by saying: “99% of men don’t do XYZ, but 99% of people who do XYZ are men.”
Let’s call these activities TYPE TWO GENDER FOULS.
For example, even though collecting star wars figurines is something that only guys do, we don’t think of that as “manly” in the way that football/cars are. (I’m not trying to make the case that Star Wars collecting is manly or awesome. If anything, admitting that you care about sports/cars should be just as embarrassing as admitting you have a closet full of mint toys. But that’s beside the point. )
It’s hard to think clearly about TYPE TWO GENDER FOULS because it’s not symmetrical.
And by “not symmetrical”, I mean, there are plenty of women into science or role-playing games or whatever, but if you’re a woman and you’re into “geek” stuff like engineering, programming, astronomy . . . that’s a type ONE gender foul: you’re acting too “masculine.” But if you’re a guy and into that stuff, it’s a type TWO gender foul: it’s not masculine ENOUGH. Makes your head hurt just thinking about it.
Put another way, most of what we think of as “women gender fouls” are TYPE ONE (some variation on ‘you’re doing guy stuff or not caring enough about girl stuff so you are less of a woman’). That’s why I had to write this rant, to try to give a way to think about TYPE TWO fouls. Until now there really has been no way to think about or talk about it. And even though I’m throwing down a theoretical framework for discussing it, at the end of the day, I’m a guy and I have no idea what a female TYPE TWO might be!
So here goes my question to everyone: What’s the embarrassing stuff that meets the definition of: “99% of women don’t do XYZ but 99% of the people who do XYZ are women?”
For example, there is this stereotype that women collect shoes. Is there any amount of shoe collecting large enough that the woman would get made fun of like a guy with a huge collection of comic books? Or are shoe collections more like football and cars, where no matter how obsessive it gets it’s never a gender foul?
And being obsessed with aromatherapy or scented bath candle collecting! Are those type two gender fouls? I know it’s mostly women who do that, but are they seen as “less of a woman” if they get down like that? What about living alone with 3 cats? Or just one cat? Or reading romance novels? Is “chick lit” OK but old-school Fabio books something you have to hide from your friends?
If you’re a woman or a guy with too many older sisters, can you help me out here? What are some good female type two gender fouls?12 comments
The HELL I just recorded a whole album in 3 weeks.
That's more music than I've made in the last 3 years combined!
Anyway it's up at bandcamp.
Please let me know what you think!
I been doing dumb photoshops since before tumblr.
will continue doing them after it is gone.1 comment
Wayne LaPierre, he ain’t playing fair High heels, bustier, lingere derriere His style is suspicious, these violent hypocrites is Switching up, playing both sides of the fences “Gun control is bad, crooks will always get guns” They should know, because they’re the ones who’s selling to thugs! Sell a nine to you, Sell a mac to your spouse A bazooka to the dude who’s a-breaking into your house. You can get my meaning The NRA’s biting the hand that’s feeding They’re laughing at you, after you leave the meeting they’re calling you a sucker Saying, if our rank-and-file only knew the real number Of guns we’ve put in the hands of crooks, Because of loopholes we put on the books, All paid for with our members’ dough Which we take to DC buying hookers and blow For a scandalous representative from Kansas Givin’ protection to gunrunners and bandits And I don’t need heat to jack for beats Just a sonar crack and some mp3s Got these firearms causing higher harm Than ten nine elevens every year That’s thirty al quaeda bombs and it’s not terror it’s wayne la Pierre keeping the spotlight off of the real players like Hi-Point, Bryco, And smith and Wesson, so kids that’s investin’ get returns on their shares. And You’ll never hear, all about rea-ALL-co, 100 crimes a year, 100 deadly salvos All from one store, and thanks to ALEC The ATF can’t make it public. So exercise your rights Cap a caribou twice, hit the range every night But don’t be a chump, have a lil self respect now They shitting down your neck, you got a mighty smear you’re looking silly troop get some tide out and some cheer So While you wash your ghillie suit, just Sing the chorus in your boxers be obnoxious ‘billy dudes Wayne LaPierre, he ain’t playing fair High heels, bustier, lingere derriere His style is suspicious, these violent hypocrites is Switching up, playing both sides of the fences We’re the only way to keep your rights (BULLSHIT!) It’s communist to compromise (BULLSHIT!) We give a fuck who lives and dies (BULLSHIT!) We’re on the law abiding side (BULLSHIT!) We got a Ouija board direct to John Wayne (BULLSHIT!) He says freedom and murder is the same (BULLSHIT!) We only want to keep you safe (BULLSHIT!) Every single solitary syllable we say is (BULLSHIT!) And the maker makes em cheap – he says thank you wayne Knowing the customers are creeps – he says thank you wayne I buy 20 at a time – I say thank you wayne When I cross a state line with ‘em - thank you wayne And sell them to a felon or a nihilist – I say thank you wayne With no background check because it’s private - I say thank you wayne If I can sell ‘em to a terrorist - he says thank you wayne Even selling on the net - we say thank you wayne And even though it’s evil yeah, every step’s still legal fair Right up ‘til your daughter gets put into a wheelchair thank you wayne , YOU say thank you wayne, YOU say thank you wayne. Wayne LaPierre, he ain’t playing fair High heels, bustier, lingere derriere His style is suspicious, these violent hypocrites is Switching up, playing both sides of the fences But just who is benefittin’ From all of these decisions? Is it all for the amendment? Or did the inspiration Come from the corporations? With some fishy vested interests The heads of which are sittin’ On the board you ain’t elected? I could do 100 bars about the censorship With a hundred examples loaded in my extended clip Who’s the most crooked gun dealers – you ain’t allowed to know that Common causes of gun deaths – government can’t show that Which brands crooks buy most - you can’t be told that If the truth is on your side, why they hold back those facts? Cus They don’t trust you to make up your own mind. NRA is on whose side? Is it? the guys who buy the stocks ,to sell the glocks? And the special hollow points for killing cops Is it? the patriots whose whole business model Is sellin to El Narco? They hit the pinche lotto Is it? the gun stores who somehow wind up winning Every time half their inventory goes missing? Is it? the undertakers, Is it? the wreath makers Is it? the Bushmasters sitting on the board of directors? You’re in the last sector, treated like a heckler Yet you’re begging them to save you from the danger they created And you do as you’re plainly told Because your brain’s controlled Who got you in a fuckin’ stranglehold. Wayne LaPierre, he ain’t playing fair High heels, bustier, lingere derriere His style is suspicious, these violent hypocrites is Switching it up, playing both sides of the fences You supporting us But we supporting thugs So they can get more guns And now you’re scared as fuck, so . . . .
(ironically, or maybe not, this is the exact same problem faced by US troops you're trying to kill! The US troops who are doing counterinsurgency in those countries: "Which warlord do I bribe vs. which do I assassinate? When should I try to "win hearts and minds" and when should I take out a wedding party?")
OZEKI ISAMU's gag panels about contemporary Japanese cultural foibles
NISHIMURA GUNDAN's wonderful character design
JACK POY's incredible Ghibli-Meets-Bladerunner photoshoppery
EM's awesome series , the theme of which is: "cute girls posing with insect larvae and other soft garden critters"
NAO KITANO's incredibly lush retro-Edo mythological paintings
TAHAI ROMAN's retro '30s stuff
TERADA SO's "modern day family crest" series
SAME P 's hallucinatory gay catholic illustrations
KIKOMU RIN's series "if various desserts were personified as cute anime girls"
SANKAKUSHA's wonderful "street fashion" zine of grandmas (instead of '90s Harajuku girls)
AKAI HYOUHON's retro '30s grotesque/patriotic work
YUTORI GAL – chaotic graffitti like schoolgirls. No anime or "moe" here.
No comments Tags: design festa —